Off late I'm inordinately shocking myself pretty often.
Was trying to hold back narrating one of the most eventful days as I was contemplating it to be quite embarrassing. I can't anymore and have to spill it. On march 9th this year, I was inwardly immersed by the case of Ms.Aruna Shanbaug and supreme court's verdict on euthanasia given on 7th of march. I was probing too much into human psychology where some men cannot abide with women giving instructions even though professionally superior and would want to appease their ego in only way possible...and end result could be Ms.Aruna Shanbaug.
Before I could go to actual events, I want to commence with a long preface.
From where do these filth heads get the audacity to dare do such things ? I guess in a subtle and indirect manner women themselves are responsible to some extent. I don't think such men can do such egregious actions directly without having a hand in similarly minor situations. They surely must have started from the level of road side teasers or something like that as they are not capable of anything constructive in life and this would be the only way to prove their illusory worth to themselves where well educated girls also have to bend their head down, ignore comments, bear with them out of fear or embarrassment and walk away (this is not the case with everyone, but mostly this is it). In a way they ll be encouraged to backslide further which may result in death or even worse. The kind of protective measures taken by women on a daily basis is predicated to be normal and is not outwardly spoken. Got to take a longer and safer route, not supposed to look at faces on busy roads even accidentally (Lord be the witness to cranky gesture that would befall)...the list goes on and is unfortunately necessary.
Right after my first year of college when I was out with my cousin, got a call from a friend saying that results were out. I ran to a near by internet center to check and results weren't out :) . Happily went to my aunt's place and later found a friend request via yahoo mail and accepted it as I thought it from my brother (that guy had same name) and he happened to be online then and it took me 2 min. to realize that its not my brother when he started explaining colour of my dress, place where he saw etc. I promptly told him that I thought it was my brother and that's why added and spoke gaily and apologized for that. Apologized because,thinking it to be my brother I spoke pretty easily calling him names !!! He hacked my mail and was telling my details written in mail details. I swore never to use public net center what ever the situation may be and never to add strangers online and following till date. I had fever by the end of the day due to fear and my sister laughed so much pointing out my boasting about being fearless and carefree and at that point I was anything but those. She found me highly funny and now, even I do :). First of all I'm one of those technically deprived people and that was my first mail id created and got deleted within a week. Thats a terrific start to my expedition online and even when in hostel and had no access to internet, N number of my friends knew my password who would check for me. In fact both my orkut and facebook were created by my brother and a friend respectively. Hahaha :))).
Now, here I'm BLOGGING !!!!! Thats a long way.
Beyond a limit tolerance could be dangerous.
May not be to us but to others and that others could include our friends, acquaintances, family or even worse in the future our daughters. In a weird sort of way, I was guilty for not acting substantially in such situations. These were literally my thoughts running amok.
On 9th march, I was forced to go shopping with my battalion of ladies of my family. My one and a half year old nephew had those squeaking shoes on and was highly reluctant to be held and was running in the shop creating a chaos. Not everyone would be delighted and some may get disturbed by the noise, so my cousin took him out to walk and I joined them.The road was free and slightly deserted and was intersecting with a small but busy road. My sister was on phone so I took the baby by hand and was showing him vehicles on road and suddenly noticed a filth head in a bus which stopped like 10feet ahead due to traffic jam and he was making humiliating gestures. With the kind of thoughts I was engaged at that time, my anger shot high and had my heart on my sleeve. Lost all sense of place and people and wanted to go straight ahead but couldn't leave the baby so ended up using foul language to him loudly in Telugu. People in the bus started looking at that fellow and he was utterly shocked by such unexpected reaction and bus moved on. I was fuming and took some time to calm down and look around. My sister was too shocked and two to three men stopped dead staring at me. Probably they did not expect an educated looking person like me could use such abusive language and sincerely even I dint know I could till then.
GOD !!! I wish my clinical batch mates were present. Humorously I use to check them whenever they use so called improper words in general conversation and after a point of time they involuntarily use to check themselves even when I wasn't involved in their talk and would look at me and all of us use to laugh and I got used to it. If only they had seen me in that situation, they would have been totally proud of me !!!
Surprising factor was that I dint feel embarrassed. That filth deserved it and such kind around who witnessed will surely be more cautious.
Such kind alone may not be a reason to state that tolerance beyond a limit could be dangerous. It reminds me of another situation when I was in +2. I was a very silent person back then but that was never the case at home. One girl use to say horrendous things to silent type of people and don't know for what joy. Once she picked on me and continuously started saying things like I looked like a dead person, my face looked collapsed (చచ్చినట్టు, కూలిపోయినట్టున్న మొహం were her exact words :)))...) and lot more but I sincerely don't remember. I never bothered as I had no spare energy to worry about her. Once one of my friends couldn't eat anymore and was shocked during lunch as this girl was going on saying those things to me while having lunch and I simply din't hear. One day this girl went on with her rattle when I was on some errand without noticing our chief lecturer behind. Next thing she called my parents (instead of hers) without my knowledge and disclosed her anxiety that I might be little depressed and might need some sort of counselling. Half did she know that I'm too oblivious to such things. What shocked her more was my indifference to such comments. Fine, I wont blame her. Next thing I encountered was my parents telling me not to shock people as they are pretty aware of my argumentation skills when needed :))).
I can't waste my energy on nonsense !!!
After a point she stopped as she couldn't get any fun with me. Once I noticed her doing same with another girl and she was in tears. Subconsciously thought that blame lies within me for not checking her as I wasn't affected. I called her and when she looked, I showed her a street dog that was roaming and asked whether she was trying to give any competition to it. I did it spontaneously and everyone laughed so loud that only then I realized how irritated every one were. She was too shocked to say anything to me. My friend was even more shocked as I did it when she wasn't directing her nonsense to me. Thats the reason- Tolerance beyond a limit is not right.
Tolerance in a situation where we cannot do anything as we have no control over the situation or do not want to take control due to circumstances or beloved ones is understandable whereas simply bearing with the situation out of fear or embarrassment is not right in long run.
This is change of attitude for good.
P.S- I happened to meet that girl during my internship and she so evidently ignored me and that totally amused me ;)
Was trying to hold back narrating one of the most eventful days as I was contemplating it to be quite embarrassing. I can't anymore and have to spill it. On march 9th this year, I was inwardly immersed by the case of Ms.Aruna Shanbaug and supreme court's verdict on euthanasia given on 7th of march. I was probing too much into human psychology where some men cannot abide with women giving instructions even though professionally superior and would want to appease their ego in only way possible...and end result could be Ms.Aruna Shanbaug.
Before I could go to actual events, I want to commence with a long preface.
From where do these filth heads get the audacity to dare do such things ? I guess in a subtle and indirect manner women themselves are responsible to some extent. I don't think such men can do such egregious actions directly without having a hand in similarly minor situations. They surely must have started from the level of road side teasers or something like that as they are not capable of anything constructive in life and this would be the only way to prove their illusory worth to themselves where well educated girls also have to bend their head down, ignore comments, bear with them out of fear or embarrassment and walk away (this is not the case with everyone, but mostly this is it). In a way they ll be encouraged to backslide further which may result in death or even worse. The kind of protective measures taken by women on a daily basis is predicated to be normal and is not outwardly spoken. Got to take a longer and safer route, not supposed to look at faces on busy roads even accidentally (Lord be the witness to cranky gesture that would befall)...the list goes on and is unfortunately necessary.
Right after my first year of college when I was out with my cousin, got a call from a friend saying that results were out. I ran to a near by internet center to check and results weren't out :) . Happily went to my aunt's place and later found a friend request via yahoo mail and accepted it as I thought it from my brother (that guy had same name) and he happened to be online then and it took me 2 min. to realize that its not my brother when he started explaining colour of my dress, place where he saw etc. I promptly told him that I thought it was my brother and that's why added and spoke gaily and apologized for that. Apologized because,thinking it to be my brother I spoke pretty easily calling him names !!! He hacked my mail and was telling my details written in mail details. I swore never to use public net center what ever the situation may be and never to add strangers online and following till date. I had fever by the end of the day due to fear and my sister laughed so much pointing out my boasting about being fearless and carefree and at that point I was anything but those. She found me highly funny and now, even I do :). First of all I'm one of those technically deprived people and that was my first mail id created and got deleted within a week. Thats a terrific start to my expedition online and even when in hostel and had no access to internet, N number of my friends knew my password who would check for me. In fact both my orkut and facebook were created by my brother and a friend respectively. Hahaha :))).
Now, here I'm BLOGGING !!!!! Thats a long way.
Beyond a limit tolerance could be dangerous.
May not be to us but to others and that others could include our friends, acquaintances, family or even worse in the future our daughters. In a weird sort of way, I was guilty for not acting substantially in such situations. These were literally my thoughts running amok.
On 9th march, I was forced to go shopping with my battalion of ladies of my family. My one and a half year old nephew had those squeaking shoes on and was highly reluctant to be held and was running in the shop creating a chaos. Not everyone would be delighted and some may get disturbed by the noise, so my cousin took him out to walk and I joined them.The road was free and slightly deserted and was intersecting with a small but busy road. My sister was on phone so I took the baby by hand and was showing him vehicles on road and suddenly noticed a filth head in a bus which stopped like 10feet ahead due to traffic jam and he was making humiliating gestures. With the kind of thoughts I was engaged at that time, my anger shot high and had my heart on my sleeve. Lost all sense of place and people and wanted to go straight ahead but couldn't leave the baby so ended up using foul language to him loudly in Telugu. People in the bus started looking at that fellow and he was utterly shocked by such unexpected reaction and bus moved on. I was fuming and took some time to calm down and look around. My sister was too shocked and two to three men stopped dead staring at me. Probably they did not expect an educated looking person like me could use such abusive language and sincerely even I dint know I could till then.
GOD !!! I wish my clinical batch mates were present. Humorously I use to check them whenever they use so called improper words in general conversation and after a point of time they involuntarily use to check themselves even when I wasn't involved in their talk and would look at me and all of us use to laugh and I got used to it. If only they had seen me in that situation, they would have been totally proud of me !!!
Surprising factor was that I dint feel embarrassed. That filth deserved it and such kind around who witnessed will surely be more cautious.
Such kind alone may not be a reason to state that tolerance beyond a limit could be dangerous. It reminds me of another situation when I was in +2. I was a very silent person back then but that was never the case at home. One girl use to say horrendous things to silent type of people and don't know for what joy. Once she picked on me and continuously started saying things like I looked like a dead person, my face looked collapsed (చచ్చినట్టు, కూలిపోయినట్టున్న మొహం were her exact words :)))...) and lot more but I sincerely don't remember. I never bothered as I had no spare energy to worry about her. Once one of my friends couldn't eat anymore and was shocked during lunch as this girl was going on saying those things to me while having lunch and I simply din't hear. One day this girl went on with her rattle when I was on some errand without noticing our chief lecturer behind. Next thing she called my parents (instead of hers) without my knowledge and disclosed her anxiety that I might be little depressed and might need some sort of counselling. Half did she know that I'm too oblivious to such things. What shocked her more was my indifference to such comments. Fine, I wont blame her. Next thing I encountered was my parents telling me not to shock people as they are pretty aware of my argumentation skills when needed :))).
I can't waste my energy on nonsense !!!
After a point she stopped as she couldn't get any fun with me. Once I noticed her doing same with another girl and she was in tears. Subconsciously thought that blame lies within me for not checking her as I wasn't affected. I called her and when she looked, I showed her a street dog that was roaming and asked whether she was trying to give any competition to it. I did it spontaneously and everyone laughed so loud that only then I realized how irritated every one were. She was too shocked to say anything to me. My friend was even more shocked as I did it when she wasn't directing her nonsense to me. Thats the reason- Tolerance beyond a limit is not right.
Tolerance in a situation where we cannot do anything as we have no control over the situation or do not want to take control due to circumstances or beloved ones is understandable whereas simply bearing with the situation out of fear or embarrassment is not right in long run.
This is change of attitude for good.
P.S- I happened to meet that girl during my internship and she so evidently ignored me and that totally amused me ;)
